Basically, this is a "random question" thing. I decided that from time to time, I will look for interesting questions that I feel like answering. For the first question, I got it from this article: 40 Questions Everyone Is Afraid to Ask. And the question is
So, how does one know? Here's my answer:
The first and most important thing to do is to figure out if it's all worth it. Ako, personally, bago ako gumawa ng isang major na bagay, tinatanong ko muna ang sarili ko:
If you continue holding on to something or someone, do you think it's worth it?
Do you think he or she is worth holding on to?
May napapala pa ba ako sa ginagawa ko?
O baka naman pinagmumukha ko na lang na tanga ang sarili ko?
Holding on to something or someone takes a lot of guts. Hindi pwedeng gusto mo lang. Kailangan mo ng tibay ng loob. You have to be prepared to feel the worst thing because it's not easy. It's going to be really, really hard and painful. So at the end of the day, you have to realize within yourself if you really want it that bad. Kung yung bagay o tao ba ay karapat-dapat na pag-alayan ng ganoon katinding devotion.
Pero kung puro sakit at hirap na lang ang nararamdaman mo dahil sa ginagawa mo, aba! It's time to think again.
Oo nga at kahanga-hanga ang ginagawa mong pagkapit ng mahigpit sa kanya. Pero kung sa buong prosesong yan ay nawawala na ang sarili mong pagkatao o kaya nasisira na ang tiwala mo sa sarili mo. At minsan siguro parang nawawala na din ang respeto mo sa sarili mo. Then maybe, he or she is not worth it after all.
Tandaan mo ang bagay na ito:
Siguro ay wala kang pakialam kung magmukha ka ng kawawa at martir sa harap ng ibang tao. Tama lang naman yun na wag mong isipin ang sasabihin ng iba. Pero importante ang tingin mo sa sarili mo. Kung ang ginagawa mong pag-hold-on diyan ay nakakasira na sa confidence mo, hindi na yan healthy.
Minsan kailangan mo ding isipin kung para sa iyo ba talaga ito. Kung nagiging destructive na ang ginagawa mo. And if it's not doing you good anymore, then it's time to let go. It's going to be hard and painful, too. But it will set you free and believe me, holding on to something or someone who doesn't realize your worth is so much more painful.
And again, understand that you deserve better. And really, you have to
Respect yourself.
Bumuo ka din ng standard para sa sarili mo. Wag yung sila lang ang may standard at ikaw ang kailangan magconform sa standard ng iba. Bilang isang self-respecting na tao, responsibilidad mo sa sarili mo na alamin kung hindi na tama ang treatment na natatanggap mo. Baka naman masyado ka nang nato-torture emotionally at psychologically. I've always thought that emotional scars are much harder to remove than physical scars.
So think about it. Which pain are you more willing to take? The pain of holding on (where you will constantly be pushed downward) or the pain of letting go (where you will eventually be pulled out)?
And with that, I leave you with one last advise.
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DISCLAIMER
Whoever is reading this, I want you to know that whatever I posted or advised in here, it is all based on my personal opinions. I am not claiming that it is the right thing to do nor is it the most convenient thing for you to do. So before you take everything to heart, I hope you will consider other possibilities as well.
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